I don't understand why there are some men (I think they're a smallish minority but haven't heard of any research) who feel a very strong drive to insult women who don't meet their visual standards. I don't just mean I don't personally get that desire for cruelty, I mean that I don't understand what purpose it could possibly serve. If we're going to get all evolutionary about it (a likely source of sloppiness, but tempting if you've got a mind on the hamster wheel), why aren't those men focusing the women they want rather than the women they don't want?
Maybe it's a very low-cost means of status-seeking, with the status-seeking divorced from any practical goal.
By the way, I think women can obsess about the unattractiveness of unattractive men, but those men have to make a pass first rather than just being visible.
NonObligatorySF: Till We Have Faces by C.S. Lewis, which is the only novel I can think of which makes that point that ugly women are treated like shit for no particular reason.