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April 1st, 2010
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Real person?
At the other end of the internet is a real person.

It's a plea to be kinder and more thoughtful, but I suspect it's better in the short run to be aware that the real person on the other side of your screen could be anywhere on the range from sincere to careless to vicious.

And as for the second example, I expect that some of the men replying are as unclear about their motives as she is.

Link thanks to andrewducker.

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From:tamnonlinear
Date:April 1st, 2010 02:50 pm (UTC)
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It's not a bad article, but I have problems with equating sending a vicious email with simply failing to respond to matches on a dating site. The second example strikes me as a bit of nice-guy-ism, that the woman is doing harm to these guys simply by failing to respond. She doesn't owe them a response merely because they wrote. She can write back a polite message to decline if she wishes, but it's perfectly fine to just not respond. It would be rude to write them back and blast them, and that would be a more equal comparison to the first example, but merely choosing not to interact is any person's right on the internet. It's all voluntary in this virtual realm, and we have a duty to do it responsibly when we choose to do it.
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From:icecreamempress
Date:April 1st, 2010 04:25 pm (UTC)
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I'm calling shenanigans on the second example. For every one "I read your profile, and I see that you like skiing! My favorite ski area is in Banff--do you know it" etc., women who post online dating ads get at least eight "he he your hot show me you're tits."

After a lot of "show me you're tits" it's hard to be enthusiastic about replying to strangers.
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